LOVE, LUST, AND THE YOUNG ---The Series

Last time I started this amazing series and i hope it blessed you richly. Now let's continue...


LUST:
* It tells you, "You're in love". (2 Sam. 13:4)

* Gives you the impression that you're doing the right thing.

* Take it or leave, being a negative desire itself, it will begin to nurture up negative thoughts in you.

* Search, you'll find desperation there.

* It's all about, "What can this offer me?" and not, "What can i offer this?"; lust only circles around selfish benefits.

* It's distractive. Lust usually takes away your peace of mind and your focus. Amnon wasn't himself just because of Tamar (vs 2).

Lust will distract you from the reality of life and your focus on the fulfilment of destiny.
Lust when it has gotten what it wants, really is far away from any good you ever expected.


Lust is usually the gateway to a lot of things when it's accomodated or satisfied...

* LOSS OF DIGNITY (Shame) - 2nd Sam. 13:18-20.

Your dignity, your virginity is priceless... Keep it for that person who is worth it, your husband or wife.
How would you feel when tomorrow, as a happily married man or woman, you happen to cross paths with your ex(s), the people you once messed up with together.

NOTE>>> Sex mates don't usually end up or last too long together. Something always comes up, usually from distrust, and before you know it, it's over.

Fine, you may have forgotten about everything and maybe you have given your life to Christ and doing well for God; but i tell you, you'll not be comfortable with that past you had with that person. They'll become a night mare haunting you. The worst is for that person who after the experience still hasn't given his/her life to Christ for a remission of sins... Your past will find and haunt you, destroying you piece by piece, except you change your ways and turn to Christ.


*DESTINY WASTAGE AND (as it is in most cases), DESTINY ABORTION:

Amnon's single act of lust led to the abortion of three great destinies: Tamar, Absalom, and His.
How?
Now, by right, Amnon, being the first son of king David, was heir apparent to the throne after David's demise, but due to his foolish act, he lost this because he was murdered.
Amnon lost the throne, lost his life, and had his destiny aborted (2 Sam. 13:2, 22, 28-29).

On the other hand, Tamar, formerly referred to as a virgin, a beautiful damsel, was now called a desolate woman. Her beauty as an elegant princess was dashed because of Amnon's abominable act. (2 Sam. 13:2, 20).

And Absalom, because of his hatred for Amnon, committed a crime of murder, which afterwards was followed by high treason and rebellion against his father king David; thus, losing his life in the process. He never got to fulfill destiny. (2 Sam. 13:22-23, 29; 14:35; 15:1-6, 9-15, 18)
LUST IS A DESTINY WASTER. There is nothing good that can come out of it.

All of these tragedies began with a single seed of lust that was nurtured by one man, Amnon, and that was motivated/propelled by another, Jonadab.


Okay, you might say, "enough with Bible stories". Let's come to the modern world. I have seen and heard of similar tragedies in the lives of young people today.

Look at the state of the world we live in today, before age twenty, most young people have lost their dignity. Before age twenty-two (22), some have become single parents, or had one or two abortions. What's going on? In all theses cases, if God isn't given a place to intervene, that destiny is gone.

Okay, tell me, why will you say or think that sex with me will help strengthen your trust in me, or help you know if i can satisfy you when we get married? Why would you tell me that if you can't have "it", you might do something drastically extreme?

Lust is the answer; it is the cause. This is the plague eating into our youths in the society today and eating up great destinies. May you never be a victim in Jesus name, Amen.


The next is:
*LOSS-
I will have you know that relationships based on sex usually end up in loss, pains and unending regrets. This is aside from the fact that one is vulnerable to STDs(sexually transmitted diseases) and the likes. One is also open to heartbreak or disappointment. Not forgetting the chances of falling into the shame that unwanted pregnancy brings. (Prov. 5:1-12).

Your heart will never get broken when you don't give it to a monkey to play with as jumps from tree to tree with one arm; forgetting that he may need both hands to get to some branches and would have to drop the heart.

When you give your heart to the wrong hands, it will return to you in a wrong state. If you know you aren't going to have a future together, why give yourselves falseful hope that you will?


Once a party is satisfied, a new era is born into that relationship-boredom, hatred, and total lose of flare for this person you once burned for. More often than not, this is when loss of value or respect for the other person arises (2 Sam. 13:14-15).

Since love requires a commitment, a certain amount of discipline is necessary because you can't harm the person you love whether physically or emotionally.

In lust, no discipline is maintained as the person who is the subject of lust becomes a subject of utility to be discarded once the purpose of self satisfaction is fulfilled.

You've got your self-worth and value, don't lose it for a pot of porridge, or else, you'll be disappointed and you'll end up in great loss. Don't pursue after what you are not ready to carry now or else you'll fall under its weight...

To Be Continued...

LOVE, LUST, AND THE YOUNG ---The Series

I will be starting a landmark series from today based on the above title, it's an issue that will benefit you greatly. I wouldn't miss a bit if i were you. Share with friends and invite to partake of this amazing topic. Stay blessed and enjoy.


PART 1
There is more to these issues than meets the eye. I've by the grace of God put together a little something both from other sources and i pray it helps you understand what Love and lust really means and how it also affects young people.
Now, Love is more than what human senses can imagine or develop; it is beyond just "mutual feelings". Love is born of God and produced through our hearts.
Love and lust are the two most confused concepts in all cultures around the world. And yet, reams and reams of literature, inumerable works of art and scores of music have been created based on these two concepts.
(1 john 3vs16-19, 4vs7-9)
From the above passages, we discover that, Love is God and it is born only from Him; love is of life, our heart is its dwelling. "Feelings and affections" are just products of an established love.
Lust, on the other hand, is "A very strong desire/urge to have or enjoy something, this doesn't involve love."
This issue as it relates to young people is way too important to be toyed with. This is because It is at this stage that man is exposed to the DECISION as to which path He will tread, Love or Lust.


To begin with, while love is mainly a spiritual, emotional and mental feeling, lust is purely based on a physical need.
Unfortunately, this where most young people around the world trip; confusing a physical feeling of lust (as an attraction based on genuine emotions emanating from the heart and soul as love) leads many young people
to hurry and to marry in haste and regret later.

There are two major agents that affect lust. Every other thing will occur as a result of these two agents. They are:
1) Information
2) Associations.
These two agents influences whatever goes into your system, whether good or bad. For instance, the information
you get from the environment, family life, social life, and others will define how you live life. Information can either be news or facts which you see, hear or feel around you; it is meant to form something in you, either good or bad.
Information comes in to create a mentality which will, in turn, create an attitude that will either form your life or deform it (Luke 8:32).
If in fulfilling destiny, you happen to surround yourself with negative information and associations, then sorry to say, you'll never reach your end in one piece (Prov. 13:20, Psalms 1, 1st Cor. 15:33). Remember, "Evil communication (is what) corrupts good manners..." 


To avoid lust taking over you, watch the company you keep and the information you download into your "system". Your tomorrow counts, don't sell it for a bottle of champagne. Don't sell your destiny out just for a few moments of pleasure. If you really love,then let everything happen in its time. Wait!

Don't sell your tomorrow just to satisfy the flesh today.

Love requires discipline and commitment while lust needs no such positive attributes to manifest. Love is focused on the growth, improvement and comfort of the person who is the object of love. On the other hand, lust is focused on the satisfaction of the self and that too, mainly of the physical kind; though it may not necessarily be physical alone.

Take a look at the story of Amnon and Tamar for instance (2nd Sam. 13:1-17). According to this story, we discover that information and association goes a long way in determining whether a person walks in lust or in love.
In verse 3-5, it was the evil counsel(information) that Amnon got from his companion/friend Jonadab (The subtile one), that let to what he did to Tamar.
Your association will either nurture or kill the seed of lust in you...




To Be Continued...